In the 28 years of my life on this earth one of the most complicated, gratifying and frustrating experiences I have had and continue to have is “FRIENDSHIP”.
For the most part of my life I have had friends come and go like autumn leaves blown about in the wind. Some have shown to be true, no matter how fleeting, others have been around but have and only will bring pain into your life. I also believe you pick your “friends” for certain periods of your life.
PS: As a near divorced single parent I surround myself with “certain” types of friends more than others not because they are more important but because I need to “grow”. Have a laugh as I try my best to explain my views on my friends, if I havent mentioned you dont take offence…and if I have mentioned you don’t take offence.
One: Happily Married Couples
I have just come out of a “failed” marriage, I cannot look at you and not look at my shortcomings. I need to feel good about myself, and thats not going to happen staring into your ”wedded bliss”.
Two: The Unhappily Married Couple
Been there done that…these friends I want to smack upside the head…get a divorce already…who are you trying to kid. I have been there, I know from “experience”. And if you give me the garbage that you are staying together for the kids…fyi…you are doing more damage to them staying in an unhappy marriage – yes you are – you are setting terrible example to them, you are “telling” them it is “okay” to be miserable. Well its not.
Three: The Lovebirds
The recently paired couple who cannot keep their hands off each other…yeah I am thrilled for you, I really am, honestly. Again, I dont want to see what I’m not getting. This is the cue for me to step to the side for a short while, at least until the initial heathsa simmered down.
Four: The “We’ve Been together Forever but havent married or had Kids”
Or as Id like to call it the K.I.S.S. couple – Keep It Simple Stupid. Yes this couple is quit content to enjoy each others company, the have very little hang ups and dont feel rushed into making any commitments. I rarely see this couple because thy are always up to something, skydiving, partying in Bali, clubbing, etc. I envy this couple. Others that have not done the marriage/kids thing will think they have commitment issues – Who the Hell Cares?
Five: Single Gal Pal
She has had relationships, she is pretty happy most of the time, never been married, never had kids. She focuses alot on her career. They really do know how to have fun but behind closed doors they let you now they are pining for ”the one” and want to settle. It is sometimes difficult to keep up with a friend like this,more often than not they are partying during the week til all hours of the morning, and as a parent tha aint happening.
Six: Single Guy Pal(Platonic)
Ths is the guy that’ll help me out with the blocked drain…reluctantly. He needs motivation to help you, which is usually a 6 pack of his favourite beer. Sometimes he is useful when you need to complain about your recent love interest although you never end up taking his advice, although you really should have in the end. This friend I dont see often, obviously he is out trying to get legover most of the time.
Lastly Ill mention the Single Parent friend, the ones with whom I have surrounded myself now.
They struggle to balance being single and a parent, they all have ominous exes, they try, and where other people have thier partners to talk to, or their single mates to talk to, the single parent can only really get another single parent. I guess why I love my single parent mates is that they “get me”. They get the oddball behaviour, the crazy ideas, and the hardships that I have to deal with. They are the ones that turn round and say:
“You are crazy and confused and dont know whats going on, but I care, Im here for you, cause I was there and still am, I may not get you, but I GET IT”.
You all mean a hell of alot to me, you all are a part of my life, maybe I dont see you all the time, maybe I have only met you once, maybe Ive known you my whole life, we may just be buddies on Facebook. Each of you brings something special into my life. As I hope I do yours…yeah Im going through “something” right now and I might be for sometime, I only hope that I can be as great a friend to you that you have been to me(and by you I mean all of you…each and everyone of you!)
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