Dating
What a horrible word…..what a terrible term.
I cringe when I hear it.
I’ve been divorced for almost a year now and I’ve had my fair share….and I’m sure to be subject to more of it.
Yeah…..I’m happy to be single….but hey….what’s life without a little spice…..and if you meet someone you like then what the hell?
But it isn’t quite as simple as that.
I’ve dated old friends, and I’ve dated strangers, I’ve even been on an online dating site…..*puke*….that lasted a whole of three weeks.
I’m a very fussy person and yes, superficial as well. Physical attraction is important. And remember your definition of “attraction” may be very different to mine. But if there is no physical attraction, I don’t even bother to entertain contact in a romantic manner.
It’s a waste of time trying to pretend to be interested in someone when you aren’t.
So you find someone you are attracted to, you then have to find their “status”. Married , single, divorced, gay, etc.
You’d be surprised how many married men are on online dating sites….I can’t vouch for the women here….but really?
These guys want some “adult fun” behind their spouses backs…..REALLY?
So you may weed amongst these apples and find an attractive guy that is available….next is….is he into you? Do you flirt?
Good lord…..I think I know how to flirt….but it takes a little effort, and you could very well be wasting your time if the intended other person is only being “polite”, instead of being genuinely interested.
And if we get that far…..then what next?
Coffee…..drinks…..dinner?
Let’s not forget what is customarily expected after the first “date”. A polite handshake? A hug? A kiss? More?
And if you expect at least a kiss and you get diddly squat…….URGH!
I lie….the dating bit is fun…..its the after date questions that drive a person wild…it’s the not knowing what he thinks that will drive women like me insane.
Can’t we all just wear our hearts on our sleeves….. Say yes or no, instead of being lost?
Never mind the fact that a lot of us are playing games and we choose to do so by not being 100% honest with each other…..the fact that when we are dating there is rarely just one person you are dating at one time.
Don’t tell me your phones battery was flat….out with it….who cares if you were on a date with someone else?
I appreciate your honesty far more…. And with that……cheers…..I’m not hanging around for dead wood.
It’s times like these where I sort of envy my friends that are involved….they don’t need to deal with the unknowns of dating….
But then I realize that I don’t have to answer to anyone. That I can go out when I please and I don’t have to compromise myself for anyone.
No fights…..no suspicions…..no compromise.
And it times like these I look on the words of the infamous Dr Seuss:
“We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.”
In a world of 6 billion people…..there has to be someone out there that you don’t have to compromise for.
And if that requires a little dating…..then you gots to do what you gots to do right?
I think I just puked a little bit in my mouth.
Just a little bit.
