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18 Aug 2012 2 Comments
I don’t think we ever know who we really are …. I think we are forever changing, learning and growing.
As days go by we discover new depths of our personality. Some parts good and some parts bad.
With every experience we find new traits.
It is only through experience that we discover our greatest fears, our most colourful dreams and our darkest desires.
We learn nothing by sitting in front of a television or reading a book. Not that either are bad….I love curling up in bed with Dean Koontz, Stephen King and occasionally with Marian Keyes….and for those of you who don’t know… They’re my favourite authors.
Life is out there and it is not going to come to you!
Living is about being and doing…..Be who you are.. Your weaknesses and your strengths.
Be the laughter and the tears and the anger and the happiness.
Be the love and the hate.
Be the quiet one….or the rowdy one….the crazy person or the jock….the supermodel or anything you want to be.
Throw the label you and others have cast upon you away and be whoever you want to be!
That being said I think you can be whoever you want to be….. But consider others and how your decisions and your choices affect them.
We are all God’s creatures…..we are all unique beautiful creatures.
Let’s celebrate life…let’s celebrate who we are… Even if we are still learning about ourselves….. Because we will learn each day….until the day we die.
12 Aug 2012 Leave a Comment
What a horrible word…..what a terrible term.
I cringe when I hear it.
I’ve been divorced for almost a year now and I’ve had my fair share….and I’m sure to be subject to more of it.
Yeah…..I’m happy to be single….but hey….what’s life without a little spice…..and if you meet someone you like then what the hell?
But it isn’t quite as simple as that.
I’ve dated old friends, and I’ve dated strangers, I’ve even been on an online dating site…..*puke*….that lasted a whole of three weeks.
I’m a very fussy person and yes, superficial as well. Physical attraction is important. And remember your definition of “attraction” may be very different to mine. But if there is no physical attraction, I don’t even bother to entertain contact in a romantic manner.
It’s a waste of time trying to pretend to be interested in someone when you aren’t.
So you find someone you are attracted to, you then have to find their “status”. Married , single, divorced, gay, etc.
You’d be surprised how many married men are on online dating sites….I can’t vouch for the women here….but really?
These guys want some “adult fun” behind their spouses backs…..REALLY?
So you may weed amongst these apples and find an attractive guy that is available….next is….is he into you? Do you flirt?
Good lord…..I think I know how to flirt….but it takes a little effort, and you could very well be wasting your time if the intended other person is only being “polite”, instead of being genuinely interested.
And if we get that far…..then what next?
Let’s not forget what is customarily expected after the first “date”. A polite handshake? A hug? A kiss? More?
And if you expect at least a kiss and you get diddly squat…….URGH!
I lie….the dating bit is fun…..its the after date questions that drive a person wild…it’s the not knowing what he thinks that will drive women like me insane.
Can’t we all just wear our hearts on our sleeves….. Say yes or no, instead of being lost?
Never mind the fact that a lot of us are playing games and we choose to do so by not being 100% honest with each other…..the fact that when we are dating there is rarely just one person you are dating at one time.
Don’t tell me your phones battery was flat….out with it….who cares if you were on a date with someone else?
I appreciate your honesty far more…. And with that……cheers…..I’m not hanging around for dead wood.
It’s times like these where I sort of envy my friends that are involved….they don’t need to deal with the unknowns of dating….
But then I realize that I don’t have to answer to anyone. That I can go out when I please and I don’t have to compromise myself for anyone.
No fights…..no suspicions…..no compromise.
And it times like these I look on the words of the infamous Dr Seuss:
“We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.”
In a world of 6 billion people…..there has to be someone out there that you don’t have to compromise for.
And if that requires a little dating…..then you gots to do what you gots to do right?
I think I just puked a little bit in my mouth.
Just a little bit.
05 Aug 2012 1 Comment
Its been just over a year that I have been on my own and its been a wild rollercoaster ride. Good times, bad times, epic moments and emotional upheaval.
I don’t know what people think about me at present, but can I say I care? To an extent yes, but it’s the opinion of myself that counts the most.
Last year I barely knew the person staring back at me in the mirror. I had no self esteem and had a difficult time making choices.
Who is in that mirror now?
A happy person that feels very much loved by her friends and family.
I have a daughter that I cannot get enough of and an ex that I can get along with and compromise with.
I have a new job where my talents can flourish and I’ve already been handed a huge responsibility after only a few weeks.
I am single….but happy….I’ve never really dated so I’ve taken the opportunity to start doing so….I’ve met some great people along the way and even if nothing comes from any of it, it doesn’t faze me too much.
What is meant to be will be.
I’ve made good decisions and bad decisions…rolling with the punches….its what you do afterwards that counts.
I love me and the life I’m living at the moment. I can wake up to a new day with a smile on my face.
I’m a grateful and truly best for all the beautiful souls I have and have had in my life.