Here is my Friday rant for you…let’s see if you can keep up.
I believe I am a person with morals, now we all have our own sets of morals and what we can and cannot live with. I don’t think it is reall fair to judge people that you haven’t met, and I will be the first to admit that I do this very thing on a very regular basis. We judge people by how they look, what they wear and what they listen to. We judge people for how they behave and what they do and even their interactions with others.
None of us are immune to this, none of us, and to say that we do not is a lie. We are constantly assessing and evaluating people, our friendships and relationships and this I think is something that is an instinct and a part of our genetic make up. And I believe it is only something we can “consciously” deal with, modifying our behaviours to be more accepting and less judgemental.
So first things first….don’t judge me by how I look or what I wear. I have earned my dues, I have worked my ass off to look the way I do now. I may not be pretty in the traditional sense but I make the best of what I have been given, and if I can give myself a little more by plastic surgery then that is my choice…I am my own artwork, I am my own sculptor. If you dont like me you dont have to like me.
I cannot afford labels such as Guess, Billabong, Ecko, Gucci, etc. So I don’t buy them. But if I could, you can bet your sweet ass I will buy the labels. Hell, I drive a Hyundai i10, but if I could afford to buy a Maserati then there is no question what I would be driving right?
I don’t think ther is anything wrong with the pursuit of physical perfection…we all want to be healthier, skinnier and more muscular. Yes, there are limits and there are extremes(bulimia, anorexia, etc), but I am talking about a healthy view for improvement.
Much trickier, and going back to morals, is trying not to judge someone for their behaviour, their actions and the things they say and do. This I find particularly tough. We are all so different and unique, with our own sets backgrounds and upbringings, and we need to realize tht all of our actions are results of our past. This brings me to a quotation that I do love, becuase often we do only judge people by their actions and their mistakes and sometimes these behaviours have very little to do with who these people are.
“Unforgiveness is allowing someone else to live in your mind rent free”
Hatred, regret, unforgiveness and grudges don’t do a damn thing at all to the person the anger is aimed at. But it festers within you and eats at you. It will only harm you and no one else.
Forgiving someone is not about condoning the persons actions, but it is releasing that pain from your mind and your heart. In the end the only persons forgiveness that you need is your own. As for the other person, well, you can choose not to be a part of their lives anymore or you can choose to work things out.
And this is where I come to my rant…now I know it’s happened to quite a few of us, and it has happened to me a few times…but this week I have been judged, judged for being me, from a person I don’t even know. Now, I know exactly why they’ve made the judgement and I can actually see their point of view, but I am surprised that I come across that way.
I have friends, both male and female. I make jokes, I’m sarcastic, I’m goofy and a little insane. I can be a bit crass and sometimes downright filthy mouthed, I speak my mind, and I do flirt but I think I am also polite and I believe there are boundaries and I respect those boundaries.
What gets to me is that I have people who speak to and flirt with me….not in a “I want to fuck you way” but in a “I like talking to you way”. Well, that is the way I see it at least. I will never cross the line with a person who is involved or married. I will talk to them sure, because this world is about meeting new people and making friends, and I don’t think there is anything wrong with talk(and I dont mean dirty talk), but that is where it ends.
Even now I am racking my brains to see if I have in actual fact crossed these lines?
Like I said, we all come with our own morals and behaviours, and who are we to judge when nothing has been done. I don’t know, it is up in the air.
I guess it depends on whether you can trust someone or not. And this is what is most important. We need to trust those we hold close to us. And if we don’t those relationships are bound to be doomed. We need to let go and give each other the benefit of the doubt. And even after we have been hurt, we need to forgive and we need to be less judgemental.
This is not t benefit the other person, but to benefit yourself.
To live with yourself, right down to it, you are the only person in your life that will ever fuck you over.
Live a genuine life…whether that means labels or hand me downs…treat others as you would like to be treated…be gentle…be compassionate…take a little time to see the peson before you look at the actions.
Have an awesome one….and remember…be enthusiastic and give it 100%